HARDCORE TRUTH ABOUT MARRIAGE

The union of a man and a woman to become one body in two could be often confusing and despite the rush to walk down the aisle, divorce rates are still on the high. Young girls run into marriage with open hands as long as their husband to be is capable financially ... funniest thing is that, our ever-so-flawed society smiles at this and encourages her "even with little courtship".

Below are real life snippets that you can imbibe and improve that institution of yours so as to live in peace and harmony with your god-given spouse.

1.  There is nothing that threatens the security of a wife than the thought of another woman competing for the attention and affection of her husband.
Nothing is more painful. Nothing is more disrespecting.
Nothing is more insulting. Nothing is more belittling and degrading.

2.  Marriage flourishes when the couple work together as a team; when both husband and wife decide that winning together is more important than keeping score.
Good marriages don't just happen; they are a product of hard work.

3.  Your children are watching you and are forming lasting opinions on love, commitment, and marriage based on what they see in you. Give them hope. Make them look forward to marriage.

4.  Husbands: The reason why other women look attractive is because someone is taking good care of them. Grass is always green where it is watered; instead of drooling over the green grass on the other side of the fence, work on yours and water it regularly.
Any man can admire a beautiful woman but it takes a true gentleman to make a woman admirable and beautiful.

5.  When a husband puts his wife first above everyone and everything, except God, it gives his wife a sense of security and honour that every wife hungers for.

6.   A successful marriage doesn't require a big house, a perfect spouse, a million dollars, or an expensive car. You can have all the above and still have a miserable marriage.

7.   A successful marriage requires honesty, undying commitment, selfless love, and Jesus at the centre of it all.
Pray for your spouse everyday; in the morning, in the afternoon, and in the evening. Don't wait until there is a problem, don't wait until there is an affair, don't wait until something bad happens ... don't wait until your spouse is tempted. Shield your spouse with prayer and cover your spouse with the fence of prayer.

8.  The people you surround yourself with have a lot of influence on your marriage. Friends can build or break your marriage; choose them wisely.

9.  One spouse cannot build a marriage alone when the other spouse is bent on wrecking it. Marriage works when both husband and wife work as a team to build their marriage.

10.  Don't take your spouse for granted - also don't take your spouse's meekness and kindness. Don't mistake your spouse's loyalty for desperation. Don't misuse or abuse your spouse's trust; you may end up regretting after losing someone that meant so much to you.

11.  Beware of marital advice from single people. Regardless of how sincere their advice may be, most of it is theoretical and not derived from real life experiences. If you really need godly advice, seek it from god-fearing, impartial, prayerful, and mature couples whose resolve has been tested and tested by time and shaped by trials.

12.  Dear wife, don't underestimate the power of the tongue in your marriage. The tongue has the power to crush your marriage or build it up. Don't let the devil use your tongue to kill your spouse's image, self-confidence, and aspirations.

Let God use your tongue to build up your marriage, and bless and praise your spouse.