INFERTILITY IN MEN

Infertility means "not fertile", not able to produce young. In men, it is a.k.a impotence.
Now, whoever coined this word certainly hates us because it comes with so much shame and stigma. If you are unlucky enough to be perceived as one suffering from impotence, you can get ostracized in some certain societies.
You can also be tagged impotent if you experience consistent Premature Ejaculation (P.E), whereby you cannot sustain an erection or penetrate a woman long enough to get her pregnant.

What's this whole imbroglio about impotence, P.E, and we, losing our rightful position to the women? Looking at the bigger picture, that's what it is; men are going soft. A UK paper just recently published an article about the mental pressure men face as breadwinners of a family. Women, however, experience the opposite mentally (from the survey) when saddled with the responsibility of taking care of the family. 

Personally, being a man means you are able to provide security (shelter, car, time), food (daily bread, school fees, upkeep of those in your circle), and sex (procreate, make a woman feel loved).
When you posses the latter, sex, you can still manoeuvre the others and most likely deceive the women till you acquire the others in your quest for manhood. On the other hand, if you don't have the sex part, the joke will most likely be on you; you will end up being cheated on, humiliated, and subsequently find solace in a deliverance church.

We all agree that women are stronger than us in bed ( ... if you don't agree, go and jump inside lagoon and kee' yourself!) but that doesn't mean they should expect us to go four-rounds or make them experience the Big-O all the time? Besides life is too short, right? And we have other things to do, abi? Lol

Seriously though, the average duration a man should last under the sacks is 6 - 7 minutes, according to Harry Fisch, author of the book, "The New Naked: The ultimate sex education for grown-ups". Now, if you want to slay every time you are in bed with a girl ... no matter how hot she is, tall, ugly, or even when you don't feel like lasting long - read this book, follow my tips here ... and thank me later!

So I had a random survey around Surulere about PE and it's adverse effects - now, 88% of the ladies I talked to said they wished their men performed better in bed,and 70% of these same women admitted that their men couldn't go more than 3 rounds of sex, while 79% said their men were better with the aid of an aphrodisiac.
Some of them had actually seen enhancement pills in the house! (sneaky things!)
85% of them also said their men experienced PE every now and then (mostly when stressed or tired).
They had no solution to the problem, though.

But fear not, men - I know our egos won't allow us put our hands up if a doctor were to ask, " If you know you are going impotent, please identify yourself, let's help you out ". I am here to tell you that impotence is totally reversible. Our bodies can be twisted to accomplish any feat ... the only problem is the mind!
I'll just talk briefly on the causes and move thereafter to the solution.
The most common causes of infertility (and PE) in men are man-made, that's why I said it is reversible.

1.  Medications: Most doctors won't tell you that those pills, most especially anti-depressant drugs or drugs to reduce insomnia, inhibit your sexual prowess

2.  Certain health conditions: e.g., hypertension, high BP, diabetes, prostrate problems

3.  High intake of alcohol and nicotine: These act as vaso-constrictors and thin out your blood vessels thereby affecting the optimal flow of blood to your man of the moment

4.  Badly treated STI: Guys, this whole uncalled for egoistic behaviour we exhibit is responsible for this. PLEASE, when you have been stung, i.e., have an UTI/STI, see your doctor and stop drinking concoction thinking you have washed it all off when you defaecate. Love your body

5.  And the psychological factor: For most guys, the first sex is usually crappy. Now, if you're unlucky enough to be dis-virgined by a 'witch', she would not spare you any emotion and might burst out in laughter. That's just downright humiliating and pathetic. If you are not strong, it would have a negative multiplier effect on your sex life and you will have spells of bad sex which will leave you more perplexed.
This is a term called performance-anxiety.

I have one maxim I always say, "Practice and Persistency never fails". Keep doing it. Also, competence gives birth to confidence. If you are good at something, there'd be a natural aura of confidence around that aspect of your life.
You can't be good at something if you don't practice, you can't practice if you don't learn, and you can't learn what you don't know.
First Off, find out the cause of your problem. Why can't you maintain an erection? It might be medical or psychological. Some men actually get a rock-stiff erection when watching porn or masturbating but when it's time for business, they falter. This is a psychological cause.
That is why an understanding partner is very important; I can't over-emphasize this. This alone can make or mar your progress. Tell your spouse and let her know you are working on yourself and need her to assist you.
This gives you more confidence when you're around her and you know she understands - so those butterflies you experience due to anxiety will die a natural death.
If you have had any Sexually Transmitted Disease in the course of your sexual escapades, go see a doctor and run a full evaluation test.

The psychological aspect is always deeper and from my perspective, impotence is a thing of the mind. A certain school of thought posits, "What you don't know would, eventually, kill you".
I believe so much in fruits, veggies, and exercise for a healthy lifestyle. What some don't know is that their careless lifestyle contributes immensely to their low libido.
Are you always sitting for hours? (drivers/bankers)
Do you lead a sedentary lifestyle? (always watching tv/sleeping etc. Go out and sweat under the sun, it's vitamin D enhances testosterone levels)
Are you always stressed and edgy?
You always use hot water to bath? (Use, preferably, lukewarm water because using hot water all the time reduces sperm motility)
Do you masturbate a lot? (This is a topic on its own. Most men play with their joystick in a wrong manner)
Are you a porn addict? (Reduces confidence in bed and you'd start getting harder erections while watching porn)
Or you always rush into sex

Change these lifestyles and bad habits and become an alpha-male. It won't happen overnight anyway.
One thing's for sure, you don't need to go to any urologist and ask for pills, because he will definitely give you some.
I must admit, some sex enhancement pills do work, but they will only get you addicted; and why should your god-given sexual virility be dependent on chemicals?
You'd keep putting money in the doctors coffers and he/she will make you believe you have a problem with your system that the "pill" is compensating for.
The science of bedmatics, guys, is deeper than this.
An enhancement drug is good to have close-by, to be used once in a while to boost your confidence in the arena but it should never substitute your real masculine strength.
There is a dietary supplement I love so much and would recommend to anyone because it is natural. It also contains L-Arginine (just like watermelon). It enhances overall strength ... for some reasons I can't mention it here.

Eat more of oysters, avocado pears, and watermelons. These fruits are friends of our member. While cucumbers help in increasing size (a bit), the others improve girth and allows more oxygen-laden blood to our dicks.
Spinach (green or shoko) is also very good. Add it to your daily diet. Eat more of unripe plantain too (boli) and notice your 'morning glory' returning slowly. This is a natural phenomenon whereby a penis experiences more than the usual blood-flow (around 5-5:30am everyday). Although it is also affected by the time you retire to bed.

Furthermore, I know karma sutra and most sexologists would tell you to use the withdrawal method, read the alphabets backwards, or the stop-and-squeeze, but to be honest ... these things don't cut it when your mind isn't fixed. You don't need all these, you would even forget all these and enjoy sex when your mind is channelled like a pro.
Read books on Will-power or Mind over body.
You wouldn't need all these aids, pumps, or creams for that matter.
Don't stop having sex, talk to your partner, eat right, and train hard.

Talking about training, do more of squats, lunges, planks, and frog-jumps, lol ... yeah really!
If you have stairs, climb up and down the staircase for 20 mins whenever you're free. You will notice a remarkable change in a short period.
Train your PC muscles to work as a sub-marine gun ... Pubococcygeal muscles, if we're being technical. This is the muscle in charge of shooting your spunk; if you train this muscle well enough, you can control ejaculation.
And hey, isn't that what causes all the embarrassment in the first place?
This is the muscle that stretches from the anus to the urinary spincter. It is the same muscle that let's you cut your pee half way ... maybe when the only toilet you could find was a female toilet and in the middle of easing yourself, you hear two girls laughing and coming your way.
Now, try stopping your urine flow while you're in the middle of peeing. Practise this skill until you master it.

3 sets of 15reps per day should do the trick (but please, don't over-do it, moderation is key). If you can contract your PC muscle for 45secs then release, you are on the right track. With time, you should be able to contract when you feel you are about to come then do a bit of foreplay ... She wouldn't have the slightest idea what is going on, lol, then continue.
Squeezing those muscles triggers good blood flow to the penis, which in turn leads to mental confidence.
#PracticeMakesPerfect

Finally, don't go in deep - Don't let her show you "how deep the rabbit hole goes", we don't want that, thanks!
Take more shallow thrusts and you can later alternate between shallow and deep thrusts.
This helps delay ejaculation - because when you rush in like a raging bull in a China market, you will also rush out.
Take deep breaths and drive in slowly till the sensation you feel is reduced.
One major point to add; never feel you're in bed with a girl because you want to satisfy her. Even if you are a one-minute man, do what you have to do and leave, no remorse.
I know it sounds harsh, but when you feel sorry for your performance, the girl will compound it for you, even if she doesn't say a word.
So work on yourself and stop feeling sorry. Remember, practice and persistency never fails.

Over & Out, Soldier.